A tribute to my maternal grandfather


Two weeks ago today, my beloved grandfather passed away, aged 78. It was unexpected and he faded away over the course of three days. Even though there wasn't enough time for me to get back to Cyprus to be with him, I'm grateful I managed to fly over for the funeral and to spend time with my family. He was surrounded by loved ones at the time of his death and knew how much we all adored him.

I'm thankful that he was spared a drawn-out end, yet heartbroken about our loss. My grandfather had a super-sharp brain, the kindest of souls and brilliantly eccentric ways. He was progressive, revolutionary and without any doubt, one of a kind. Did I mention that he was devastatingly handsome too?!?

I'll miss so much about him - the soothing sound of his voice, his mischievous laugh, his sense of humour, his encyclopedic knowledge, our intellectual chats... 


Circa 1965

A lot of people have a special bond with their grandparents, but for me this couldn't be truer. My mum and I actually lived with my grandparents from when I was 5-10 years old and I still get all warm and fuzzy when I remember how safe and loved I felt. My grandfather used to tell me that he's two times my father, to make up for the fact that my dad wasn't around. I saw them everyday after that too, until we moved to England when I was 13, and have visited almost every single year since then.

I will forever remember him sitting at the kitchen table into the early hours of the morning, reading a newspaper or one of his thousands of books. His collection was remarkably diverse - academic, political, religious, philosophical, fictional, factual, alternative...you name it - and legendary among all who have witnessed it. He kept a log since 1958 of every single book he bought, and his collection is well over 4,500!

When he retired he decided that he was going to live in pyjamas, sleep during the day and read all night when the house was quieter...which is exactly what he did! Although it's easy for us grandkids to remember him this way, he was actually a very academically and politically active man in his youth, which I want to do justice to in this tribute.

Pictured on the left


Born in 1937 in Leonarisso, my grandfather was orphaned at a young age. When he met my grandmother in his late teens - in her neighbouring village of Koma tou Gialou - he was immediately embraced by her family and he finally felt like he belonged.

Pictured behind my grandmother who is leaning against the side of the car


He was just 18 years old when they married in 1955 and he enjoyed reminiscing about falling in love with the long plaits my grandmother wore her red hair in.

Pictured second from the right

Pictured in the middle, crouching down


By 1957 he had fathered his first child and was studying at Morphou college. At the same time, his strong sense of patriotism led him to join EOKA - a Greek Cypriot nationalist organisation that fought to end the British rule in Cyprus. He had an active role in this, which also involved giving refuge to fighters wanted by the British military, until the organisation disbanded in 1959.

Pictured second from the right

Pictured in the middle

Pictured on the right, the embodiment of The Great Gatsby

My grandfather had always been a man 'of the people', seeking social justice and striving for 'the greater good'. By 1962 he was the General Secretary of the Commercial Employees of Cyprus, and he joined other trade unionists on a two-week visit to the UK, as a guest of the Commonwealth Relation Office of Information.

It included visiting a Government Training Centre at Perivale, and an informal dinner with regional officials in Birmingham.

1965

1967 - my mum pictured on the right

My mum pictured on the left

In 1965, my grandfather moved his young family to England, so he could study Politics and Economics as well as Industrial Relations at Ruskin College, Oxford. He then went on to study Law as well. The family grew (four kids in total) and ended up working and living in England for 13 years, joined by my grandmother's sisters and families. These were financially challenging times, but my mum remembers them as full of love and happy family times.



By the time they moved back to Cyprus in 1978, the Turkish invasion of 1974 had cost them their homes, their villages, their much loved lifestyle. They settled in the capital, Nicosia, in a welcoming house which has always felt like home to me. 

My grandfather eventually turned to primary school teaching, but remained politically active and patriotic to the core.



His final resting place is picturesque and serene, befitting of the special and universally-loved man that he was.

Rest in peace my Bappou.

30 comments:

  1. A beautiful tribute and a fascinating life

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  2. What a wonderful life he lead. I can see he was well loved and will be missed.
    You have his kind and expressive eyes!

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  3. Thinking of you and sending hugs. What a lovely tribute xx

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  4. A lovely tribute to a special man. You are an amazing family. That's so precious these days. Thanks for sharing K xXx

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  5. This is such a lovely post Marie. Your love for him comes through in your writing. I'm very sorry for your loss.

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  6. Oh, Marie, I'm terribly sorry for your loss. Your grandfather sounds like an amazing person- thank you for letting us get to know him a bit.

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  7. Beautiful x Really sorry for your loss, but glad you have such lovely memories. Your mom looks so like you in the photos above!

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  8. Thank you for sharing you wonderful memories of you Grandfather, my thoughts are with you, he was a gift in your life, always celebrate that ;) xxxx much love

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  9. Beautiful tribute, he would be proud of you.

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  10. Very nice post. So sorry for your loss. I really can see the resemblance with your mom.

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  11. I so sorry for your loss. What a beautiful tribute to your Grandfather. He sounds like a wonderful person.

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  12. A beautiful tribute. He could have had no greater legacy than your love and that of his family, thank you for sharing his story and allowing us to know what a wonderful soul he was.

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  13. I'm very sorry for your loss, Marie. This is such a lovely tribute to your grandfather. I find his idea for retirement very compelling: time to read and enjoy the comfort of home. His library must be a fantastic reflection of his diverse interests and passions, and a testament to a great curiosity.

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  14. This is such a beautiful post and a loving tribute to a great man. Grandpa's are so very special.

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  15. I'm so sorry for your loss Marie. Your grandfather was clearly an amazing man, with a life well lived. I really enjoyed reading about him.

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  16. I send my condolences. What a warm and loving tribute to a one of a kind man.

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  17. Happy memories for you, you have such a wonderful pictorial timeline there, that is a very lucky thing. Love Jo x

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  18. What a wonderful tribute to an obviously muched loved family man, I love that he called himself your "two times father". I send my condolences. Are we allowed to know his name?

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  19. I'm so sorry for your loss. I lost my grandparents a long time ago & always regret not being able to find out more about their lives whilst they were alive. I've really enjoyed reading your beautiful tribute & seeing your treasured photos - thank you.

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  20. So sorry for your loss x a beautiful tribute to a clearly very loved man x

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  21. Marie, you wrote such a beautiful tribute to your Bappou, a man a life well-lived. Blessings to you and his memory.

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  22. What a beautiful tribute to your grandfather. He sounds like a very interesting person. And so handsome!

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  23. Thank you for sharing. I am so sorry for your loss. This is a wonderfully written tribute to your grandfather and he would be so honored!

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  24. what a beautiful tribute. I loved reading and send my love to you and you family. c

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  25. A very lovely tribute - such a thoughtful post full of family love

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  26. So sorry for your loss...Thank you for sharing your lovely photos.

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  27. Συλλυπητήρια, αγαπημένη Μαρί, να είστε όλοι καλά, να τον θυμάστε με αγάπη και εκτίμηση, όπως ακριβώς τα έγραψες. Ήταν όντως γοητευτικός άνδρας, και οι φωτογραφίες πολύ χαρακτηριστικές της ζωής του και του χαρακτήρα του. Τα φιλιά μου στην οικογένειά σου.

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  28. A wonderful life - Always great to read about people from Leonarisso!

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  29. A wonderful tribute to your grandfather....he would be very proud! My father and he are first cousins, often being mistaken for each other as they shared the same name, and although I only met him a handful of times, I do remember him. He was a very charismatic, handsome man. Very sorry for your great loss...RIP Andreas.

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  30. I hope you don't mind but I shared your blog on the Facebook group for Leonarisso & Vasili https://www.facebook.com/groups/258279195252/10156896355660253/?notif_t=like&notif_id=1461535470251551

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